Most of us expats will sit down in a bar with other expats and moan about the Philippines. Hands up I am guilty on this just as much as many expats are. I am not talking about expats who are from the same nation as me, but from all nations. When we meet and drink we all break out into the negatives on our lives in the Philippines.
We even rudely do this when we are with our respected partners who are from the Philippines. From Philippines to Australia or Philipines to the U.S. we all have something to say about our adopted nation.
Many times I have arrived home and felt really guilty about the night. Negative, negative and negative. What do the locals must make of us? We moan about the traffic, customer service and of course our inability to find our favourite foods. What a bunch of idiots we are.
I have often been told off by my local friends for “moaning “about the Philippines and that it can come across rude and ungrateful to our loving hosts. I have sat and thought about this recently and realise that most of us expats would moan exactly the same in our own countries. We would moan about other issues, but yes we moan and complain as much in our home countries as we do here. The only difference is that here we blame the locals. The locals here are our Philippine adopted lovers and friends who just do not share all our comments and observations..
In our own countries our mutual moaning would normally be universally accepted by everyone in the group and those listening from a distance. It is a shared moan. In the Philippines we forget that outside of the conversation, our Philippine friends are listening to us, and NOT accepting these public moans as a universal.
Maybe we should have our moans and groans in a private setting and keep our mouth shut in front of locals. I cannot stop moaning as it is in my blood, but I really think I need to adapt to my surroundings. I am telling myself off! My mum would not be pleased either.