How many people take divorce for granted around the world? I assume that most people reading this have themselves gone through a divorce and have emerged through the other side ready to start a new relationship and to kick start life again. Imaging if you guys could not divorce the ex? Imagine being stuck physically, emotionally and physiologically for the rest of your life.
In the Philippines family is vital and essential to keeping everything working. The family is the glue, the law, the moral compass and the punisher. The family have so much control that it is hard for the westerns to understand.
But, if a marriage goes bad in the Philippines life can be very complicated. Most believe that there is no divorce in the Philippines, and most couples have to tolerate a life of being stuck in a loveless or even violent relationship. Imagine that?
The reasons for no divorce in the Philippines, is down mainly to history and the requirement to ensure the family remains bonded-always. It is strange in the modern world that divorce is not allowed, but more importantly it is hard on the children and families involved who are also stuck in the middle of such a marriage that should have been ended.
There is annulment-but this is so very costly and takes many years. This is also a route that can make the existing children bastards, as an annulment assumes the wedding should have never taken place.
For the Muslim communities in the Philippines there is a divorce system and it works very successfully and part of the grounds for divorce are to ensure no violence against the women.