Filipina Woman married to foreigners.
The Philippines is very use to mix race marriages and to be very honest has been known for it for several decades. There is a polarity here as the Western visitor cannot possibly meet (he assumes) beautiful ladies who are at his every whim. She cant believe she has met a man who wants to look after her and love her for ever. Perfect in every way for both.
One of the things that can be forgotten here is that for the Filipina with kids life can be very harsh. It is still very difficult here for someone who has a kid or kids and no longer has a husband. For her to meet another Filipino is difficult as it is still “another mans goods”, and her family or the previous lover/husband family would not always accept it. Yes, this is not true of every person, but it is deep in the Filipino physique.
So many women who have children to look after turn for help and love to the foreigners.
We do not normally have anything against taking on another mans kids if we are in love with the perfect girl- it just follows. Mostly we would never think about it being an issue. It is here.
So, the relief to a dutiful mother that she has met a foreigner who likes and loves her and has money to support her is a huge blessing. She will sigh a huge relief as this is not very often the case inside her own culture. Hopefully the foreigner being her future husband will elevate her position and the family will come on board.
The next issue for the husband is to understand that he is NOT only taking on a new girl and her kids, but by default he will be taking on the family and the extended family too. This is normal in the Philippines and it is a case of “share your blessings”, and people will assume you have a few blessings to share out.
Getting married may sound fine and every girl wants to rush into it. BE CAREFUL there is no Divorce in the Philippines apart from some Muslim areas. I have heard many times of guys getting married here only to find out that the lady is still married, something she neglected to fully state before. Do not rush into marriage.
One thing you will need to do, here in the Philippines, when you are ready to get married is file for a“Certificate of Legal Capacity to Contract Marriage“. Click the link for more exact info on the process. The filing fee is (currently) $50. This is how you will present the Divorce Decree or Certificate of Death in order to prove you are legally free to “contract” marriage. Marriage here is seen as a legal contract between two people, similar to the way Non-Default states in the U.S. handle divorce cases. Once you have this it is up to you whether you and your Filipina bride will officiate the wedding via a Priest at a church or at the government offices via a Judge or Judge’s Appointee.